My Daddy Charles Glenn Jacobs by Sibling #4

I'm curious about your comment about "what would your dad think?

I'm assuming you mean Charles Glenn Jacobs, your Paternal Grandfather.
There are some great things about him on the "family of Origin" blog posts.

Mostly he would have laughed, sworn like a sailor, and told us to take it outside, or intercepted by kicking and beating up the boys with his cowboy boots, slapping Marie in the face, and telling them they were dammed idiots, and other more viscous swear words.

Mother would have responded by "shrinking alone," and saying "Daddy, Daddy Daddy".

You see, Daddy, too, was bi - polar, as were his parents, sisters and brothers.

Read some of the posts in "adult psycho pathology" or "counseling and Education" or even "Lickin' & Groomin', they are about how he treated your father and Uncle Glenn.

I tried to make them anonymous, but your dad tries to canonize Daddy hoping that will change history by ignoring it.

He who doesn't learn from history is doomed to repeat it.

You dad was beaten viciously many many times,

and all I could do was "shrink alone" and watch.

I thought it was all my fault because I told on him.

He thought he was adopted, and when Daddy called him a dammed idiot, he believed it until he got out of the Navy and made something of himself by going to school and getting an EdD. But he still believes it, really.

That's why he is so tender and takes anything that appears to be criticism to terribly hurtful.

You've seen him turn red and cringe into his body when your mom publicly criticizes him for imagined wrongs.

He still has Daddy's tapes going through his head constantly swearing at him and calling him a no good idiot, and can't you ever do anything right, "

So he can't hear complements, appreciation or neutral statements, like "you wanna watch a conference I paid for?",

and can't take offerings for anything but criticism or praise; there is no in between.

And that's how he taught you boys to interpret things.

I'm sorry this is not a blast at him,

or how did you put it a "cat claw in the face",

It it history of your family;

Pure truth.

Ask Grandma, if you think you know better.

Daddy was cruel when he was manic.

His daddy was cruel, as was his mother, and their parents before them. Ask Erica. Eandewaldmann@AOL.com;

They have passed the gene down from Woodman and before him from George I, II III and IV.

It's all on my blogs and stories about the family history that you think are just the opposite of Growing Together.

So read "shrinking alone", and find out some truths about your family of origin

That you really don't want to know, and haven't been allowed to hear.

Now that is something that IS your business.

Or NOT

I'm tired of all the family secrets.

That's what evil is made of.

Family secrets lead to hatred, animosity, cruelty and abuse.

Let's stop that cycle with this generation as well.





Cousins we have left or know about

Aunt Lola's daughter:

Erica Lewis



Uncle Caton's children:

Buck Jacobs

Timer Jacobs (deceased)

Helen Cutrer

And six other green-eyed, red haired girl cousins



Aunt Louella's daughter:

Helen Wilcox (may well be deceased now)

Two sons of Helen Wilcox.