4 grandmothers

My Dear Grandchildren;
As I was growing up then, as my children were growing up, we liked to read stories together of the pioneers and early days to get to know how things were done and how people acted. As I read them I always thought how lucky they were to live in times so different from ours so they could write about them and have interesting things to say.
Through the years, I began to see the changes in our own lifetimes have been interesting. The differences between my mother’s world, and my world, compared to my children's world and their children's world are wonderful, and indeed worth writing about.
In my family, our ancestors came to the Americas as early as l570 from the Canary Islands, near Spain, and early l600's my father’s family came with the early puritan fathers. One of our earliest ancestors to live in the new Americas was George Jacobs, who lived in the Massachusetts colony of Salem and was actually hung for witchcraft during the Salem Witchcraft trials. That is another story and is recorded in history. From there the Jacobs spread across the territories and into the west where my father, Charles Glenn Jacobs, was born in South Dakota in l907. His father and mother were ranchers as their parents had been, and they helped settle the territories. From Dakota to Texas my father came with his father, and from there to Arizona.
My grandmother brought with her from Dakota a wooden chest that had been made for her mother, from her mother’s wooden dining room table. That chest was given to my Aunt and she gave it to me. And I inherited a wind up wooden clock. When we found an old lone star quilt that our grandmother had done, it was ragged and torn, so we cut out the best four squares and each took one. That’s about the entire physical legacy we have. These are symbols of the sacrifices and the courage of my forefathers.
I have nothing of my Mother's parents except copies of pictures of them; they died when she was a baby. Mother's people were among the very earliest settlers of the New Mexico territories, and were citizens of Spain until their lands came to be owned by Mexico, then the United States territories. Their influence throughout the history of the west is great, and it is our heritage, just as is that my father.

I do not have stories of emigrants from other countries, but of western settlers and pioneers, the earliest of citizens of the United States of America.
All I have of my grandmothers is what my uncles and aunts have told me over the years. I want to leave something for my grandchildren and so I am writing these books as letters to my grandchildren. Through them, you will also come to know Aunt Lynae and Uncle Brent as young teens, and a little bit about their older siblings and the amazing people they all were, and how human we all were. Maybe someday you will give it to your children and their children, so each will know that although our lives might be very different, there is a courage and a pioneer spirit that runs strong among our family, and, knowing this, you will turn your hearts to your forefathers.
So my dear grandchildren, this is for you
from Grandma Lynda (LoLyn)

decendants of C. Glenn and Lucy Jacobs

My Pedigree Chart

Kalideascope of my famly of origin

Me, Lola Lynda at 5 and 6

Round up time and Reunions at Lyman Lake

My Daddy Charles Glenn Jacobs by Sibling #4

I'm curious about your comment about "what would your dad think?

I'm assuming you mean Charles Glenn Jacobs, your Paternal Grandfather.
There are some great things about him on the "family of Origin" blog posts.

Mostly he would have laughed, sworn like a sailor, and told us to take it outside, or intercepted by kicking and beating up the boys with his cowboy boots, slapping Marie in the face, and telling them they were dammed idiots, and other more viscous swear words.

Mother would have responded by "shrinking alone," and saying "Daddy, Daddy Daddy".

You see, Daddy, too, was bi - polar, as were his parents, sisters and brothers.

Read some of the posts in "adult psycho pathology" or "counseling and Education" or even "Lickin' & Groomin', they are about how he treated your father and Uncle Glenn.

I tried to make them anonymous, but your dad tries to canonize Daddy hoping that will change history by ignoring it.

He who doesn't learn from history is doomed to repeat it.

You dad was beaten viciously many many times,

and all I could do was "shrink alone" and watch.

I thought it was all my fault because I told on him.

He thought he was adopted, and when Daddy called him a dammed idiot, he believed it until he got out of the Navy and made something of himself by going to school and getting an EdD. But he still believes it, really.

That's why he is so tender and takes anything that appears to be criticism to terribly hurtful.

You've seen him turn red and cringe into his body when your mom publicly criticizes him for imagined wrongs.

He still has Daddy's tapes going through his head constantly swearing at him and calling him a no good idiot, and can't you ever do anything right, "

So he can't hear complements, appreciation or neutral statements, like "you wanna watch a conference I paid for?",

and can't take offerings for anything but criticism or praise; there is no in between.

And that's how he taught you boys to interpret things.

I'm sorry this is not a blast at him,

or how did you put it a "cat claw in the face",

It it history of your family;

Pure truth.

Ask Grandma, if you think you know better.

Daddy was cruel when he was manic.

His daddy was cruel, as was his mother, and their parents before them. Ask Erica. Eandewaldmann@AOL.com;

They have passed the gene down from Woodman and before him from George I, II III and IV.

It's all on my blogs and stories about the family history that you think are just the opposite of Growing Together.

So read "shrinking alone", and find out some truths about your family of origin

That you really don't want to know, and haven't been allowed to hear.

Now that is something that IS your business.

Or NOT

I'm tired of all the family secrets.

That's what evil is made of.

Family secrets lead to hatred, animosity, cruelty and abuse.

Let's stop that cycle with this generation as well.





Cousins we have left or know about

Aunt Lola's daughter:

Erica Lewis



Uncle Caton's children:

Buck Jacobs

Timer Jacobs (deceased)

Helen Cutrer

And six other green-eyed, red haired girl cousins



Aunt Louella's daughter:

Helen Wilcox (may well be deceased now)

Two sons of Helen Wilcox.